Fear: an unpleasant emotion caused by the belief that someone or something is dangerous, likely to cause pain, or a threat.

At some point in our life we have all felt fear. It comes in many different forms and we all deal with it in different ways. How many of us are afraid of our own thoughts?

It happens time and time again, something or someone triggers a thought and we clam up and hone in on that thought.  We might have handled this thought or memory with anger or self harm in the past and so we become fearful of ourself.  During this painful confusing cycle all we want to do is to not remember the pain or the traumatic event but often times all we know how to do is be angry about the situation. We start to blame ourself and go into depression isolating everyone around us. We are sick, tired and afraid.

When these moments occur how do we deal with them the right way? There is no single right way to handle fear but there is a wrong way. Anything we do to harm ourself or others physically or emotionally is wrong. We have to find a healthy way to deal with fear and trauma. If we continue to handle it the wrong way then it will never get better and we are likely to make it worse.

Some healthy ways I have dealt with my fear is by trying to surround myself with positive people. Some of us do not have that option so I would recommend connecting with others on social media groups. Be careful who you share things with but also don’t be afraid to open up. I have also found that finding a hobby has helped me tremendously. Building puzzles has been my go to hobby, it stimulates my mind and takes it off of the negativity. Writing has also been very therapeutic.

These are just a few ideas and there are so many more healthy ways to deal with fear. Once we stand up to it and tackle it then it is so much easier to deal with it in the future. If we continue to let it get the best of us then unfortunately it will never get better.

© Tim Foster – 2015